So how can we be “true to ourselves” while transforming into someone better?
We can reconcile these seemingly contradictory pieces of advice by creating a balanced approach.
Think of your identity as having two layers:
Core – your fundamental values, ethics, and principles
Shell – your behaviors, habits, appearance and personality expressions.
Keep your core stable while allowing your shell to evolve.
More to consider:
1. The Growth-Authenticity Balance
– Be authentic about where you are NOW
– Be honest about where you want to go
– Acknowledge the transition openly
– Don’t pretend to be already changed
2. The Conscious Evolution Approach
– Make intentional rather than reactive changes
– Choose transformations aligned with your values
– Let changes emerge from genuine desire, not just external pressure
3. The Multiple Selves Integration
– Recognize that we all have multiple authentic selves
– Allow different contexts to bring out different sides of you
– Maintain consistency in core values across all versions
– Example: Being professional at work, playful with friends, nurturing with family – all while staying true to your principles
4. The Authentic Growth Path
– Be honest about your growth journey
– Share your transformation process with others
– Accept that change is part of being human
– Embrace the discomfort of evolution
This framework allows you to:
– Maintain integrity while evolving
– Change without feeling fake
– Grow while staying grounded
– Transform while being honest
– Adapt while preserving your essence